Early brekky.

Yesterday when I went to pick up Dad from his Tues-day care facility the woman in charge told me that Dad had complained that he was unwell. This has happened before where Dad has been upset and has asked for them to phone me to come get him. Once a chap asked him to be quiet because Dad was talking through a program they were watching and Dad then wanted to come home. So yesterday, she checked his temperature and decided it was an emotional upset and got Dad to have a lay down. After a half hour or so Dad was back up and feeling ok. This, I'm sure was brought on by the tour of the 'disturbing facility'.
Last night, Dad had an episode of incontinence and was up wanting brekky at 4.30 am. He had dressed himself and was yelling that he didn't know what went next...the milk in his cereal.
The incontinence episodes I have found happen of a Tues night after he has been at day care. He drinks too much coffee and misses out on the amount of water he has at home. If it happens again next Tues night I will ask them to only let him have one coffee and the rest needs to be water. I feel like the big bad witch at times but if it means he sleeps more comfy and through the night then so be it. So that coupled with him being upset meant he didn't have a good night.
As I write this I'm noticing he is coughing lots more. I think he may have caught my daughters cold...so maybe yesterday he was feeling the beginnings of something coming on.
We have an appointment this arvo for another tour.

Dad has episodes of night-time incontinence

Continuing the journey...

Dad was extremely distressed by a couple of night-time episodes of incontinence. Geriatrician organises consultation with incontinence nurse. Dad's prostate had been checked and was ok.
The nurse discussed the importance of drinking water to combat this. I had been making sure Dad drank water (hydration/blood pressure) but now I needed to increase this and be diligent. She explained how as people aged the 'making urine mechanism within the body sometimes went haywire and the body produced more urine during the night'. Maintaining a certain level of water during the day would help keep the body making more urine during the day.
Other stimulants needed to be watched also.
So now:
1 coffee before lunch.
Occasionally 1 cup of tea in afternoon.
1 juice with lunch and breakfast.
2-3 large glasses of water through out day, one of these with dinner. Plus the glasses of water to take tablets.
Nothing to drink past 6 pm, but if thirsty a drink.

The outcome has been amazing. Dad, on average has only had 2-3 episodes per month.

The hardest part has been trying to convince Dad to drink the water on the following days after an episode. The incontinence nurse made a house follow up visit and again explained how important it was to maintain the water drinking. Luckily, Dad most days accepts the water.