Medication problems in respite facility

When I dropped Dad off at the respite facility the manager told me she wanted to give Dad a 'sleeper' to help him stay asleep throughout the night. The hairs on my neck stood up because it was because of something else that I went into her office to discuss and she off handily said she was going to get their visiting GP to prescribe him something. NO, I began, because Dad has Lewy Body Dementia do you think this is wise? 'It will be fine' she replied. 'It wont make his hallucinations worse'? I asked. 'Not any more than he already is' she said. My hairs stand up on my neck and I visualised jumping the desk and ripping her head off...I'm still standing in the same spot. I realise she doesn't know about Lewy and it's medication problems. I begin 'you can't give Dad any form of antipsychotic' I say with my stress levels peaking.
'Valium, will be ok, we will just give him a little' she says. 'No, I'm not sure about that' I reply. 'What about Temazepam?' she asks. I reply 'No, I'm not sure of the classes of tablets which are harmful'. She says 'It will be ok, it may make him a little sleepier throughout the day'. I visualise F18's coming in...I reply 'All I do know is that antipsychotics can be dangerous, it's more than a little increase in hallucinations. People with Lewy have ended up in psych wards'. She looks at me like I'm the one who has lost their marbles. So I used the most extreme outcome I knew of, but I had read on the net where this did happen. Her mouth is half open...I continue 'You also have to be careful with anti-Parkinson's medication because it can make them worse'. She replies 'I don't see how that could happen'. Ok I'm banging my head against a brick wall...'Studies have shown this to be true. Some of the dangers with medication is increase in stiffness, rigidity and sometimes death'...trying to remain calm...'Do you want me to phone Dad's Geriatrician and get him to contact you? I think she may have caught on when I said 'Death'. Yes that would be good and could you email me the studies you are talking about because I'm UNAWARE of this. Ok now I'm freaking out. How did they pull the wool over my eyes when I asked if they were familiar with Lewy. I will have to be more careful in future, having people with Lewy Body Dementia stay at their facility DOES NOT EQUAL knowing, familiar, yes, but not the specific knowledge that's required.
I leave, I phone Dad's Geriatrician and speak to his more than helpful, absolutely lovely, on the ball, Clinical Consultant Nurse. I explain the situation and mention VALIUM. She says 'NO DON"T GIVE HIM THAT IT COULD SET HIM BACK A YEAR'. My stomach turns over. I hate LEWY, this isn't an easy situation to deal with. She takes facilities phone number and she asks me to email her contact details. She tells me she will speak to the Geriatrician tomorrow (it's now late afternoon) and get him to contact them with details about medication and that she will contact me when this has been done. It was this woman who picked up the side effects Dad was experiencing with Aricept...dangerously low heart rate...followed by lots of tests to determine if it was Aricept or Dad's heart. It was the Aricept.
Back to the problems at hand. I email woman at respite facility information from Lewy Body Dementia Association and Alzheimer's Australia.
The following day I receive email from woman from respite facility. She wrote that she had gone home and looked up the same sites that I sent her and that she had read the problems and was now aware of them.
I also received an email from the more than capable nurse which was a copy sent to respite facility.
I have copied this here breaking some rules but I think this knowledge needs to get out there as much as possible.
'It is best to avoid any drug treatment for wandering. Benzodiazepines are contraindicated and may worsen the problem. Suggestions: Quetiapine (seroquel) 12.5mg nocte, is the least dangerous but I would only use it if symptoms can be managed no other way.
Risperidone 0.5mg may be used if Quetiapine is not available.'

I don't want another evening like that. Daughter was having last minute law exam kittens, I was trying to get the information together to help Dad and I came down with a cold/flu. Stayed up too late helping daughter with legislation, had 4 hrs sleep and drove her to exam (why I drove her, it's miles away in an unfamiliar area and she was stressing enough without having to deal with finding the place by catching a bus and 2 trains). I felt kinda ordinary but boy was it worth it to see her come out after finishing the exam, GLOWING...wouldn't have missed it for the world.

I will be phoning the respite facility this afternoon to find out how things are going and I think then I may take along bath with a lovely cuppa tea with lemon.